Advice please?

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Michael Orr's picture
Advice please?

So, this is a little awkward but I don't really know a lot of people where I am living at the moment and the Atheist Hub description said this was for anything we wanted to talk about so...I met this girl at college and she is awesome, we hang out after our last class since we are in the same one and study for stuff. I think she might have a boyfriend though, and I am worried if I ask her and she does it might make things awkward. I might be worrying over nothing but I really enjoy hanging out with her and I don't want things to get awkward to where we can't =/.

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Capt.Bobfm's picture
Just say "I enjoy hanging out

Just say "I enjoy hanging out with you. Do you have a boyfriend ?"
Your next statement is entirely dependent on her answer, but you'll never get anywhere if you just keep your mouth shut.
Try it. You'll see.

Michael Orr's picture
Now I feel stupid, reading it

Now I feel stupid, reading it makes it obvious it's simpler than I made it. Thanks for the help. Although I will point out it probably works better for you because of your awesome goatee and kick-ass name.

Capt.Bobfm's picture
True , true !

True , true !

catie's picture
If it were me, I'd just keep

If it were me, I'd just keep talking to her in a way that showed you want to get to know her better as a person.
But from a my point of view, I know I do get a bit turned off if a guy just comes out and asks, because then I think he's ONLY interested in .... one thing.

Maybe if you wanted to be a bit more subtle, you could find a way to bring up the fact that you're single and that might be a more natural way to bring it up. You never know, she might be wondering the same thing about you. =)

CyberLN's picture
And what if she does have a

And what if she does have a boyfriend? Does that mean you can't be her friend? You enjoy her company, focus on that and continue to enjoy it. If it develops into something else over time, and you're into that, great. You have already gained in the knowing of her. (If she has a boyfriend who thinks she shouldn't have a friend of the opposite sex, then her boyfriend is a jerk.)

Michael Orr's picture
I really appreciate your

I really appreciate your answers, I like being able to see it from different points of views. Thanks for a little insight from the other side of the situation too Catie.

Stacey Joel Barkdull's picture
Ask her to out to the movies

Ask her to out to the movies and take her to dinner after. If she has a boyfriend she'll bring up the fact because essentially she will see you're asking her on a date. Just don't mention date, it takes away the subtlety.

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