My therapist suggested I attend Al-Anon meetings because she feels I am still affected by the tolls of living with an alcoholic for 30 years....even though we have been divorced for 10 years. Anyone have suggestions for getting through the steps like 'let go and let God". That just doesn't work for me. Thanks for any suggestions.
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Your therapist maybe correct and hopefully it's no great endeavor to attend a meeting. This sight is fairly good -
http://www.sossobriety.org/12steps.htm
Most people tend to take it like dressing a deer - take every bit of the useful parts that you can and leave the rest. I wish you well on your path AlAnon.
If it really bothers you, there are secular groups out there, they just aren't as popular. Maybe ask your therapist for a secular option.
Maybe you should get a different therapist.
This is supposed to be a good place to find secular therapists:
https://www.seculartherapy.org/
...if you live in the US.
First of all, best of luck!
Secondly, I'd follow the link that Pragmatic provided, it is a good one. If you are experiencing alcohol issues, it may help to follow the strategy I used to quit smoking, but it requires a lot of vigilance and patience.
Find something you like more than alcohol, like tea, coffee, chocolate milk or something similar. Remind yourself that you could buy a LOT of these beverages instead of alcohol, because they're usually 1/100th the price! Keep that in mind, finances are a powerful motivator.
The other way I tricked my brain to stop wanting smokes was to pretend that the global supply ran out. I see cigarette boxes, sure... "But those are just ads, the sicko companies just want me to feel bad that there's no more.", that sorta thing.
Not the best, die-hard 100% success strategy, but it actually did help me quit smoking. So it's worth putting out there.
Again, best of luck, and I hope you find the answers you are seeking! We're here for 'ya.