You see I belong to a super orthodox Muslim family and I don’t believe in god, I don’t know how to tell them could I get advice on how or maybe stories on how u guys did it. Also I’ve been in multiple “fights” (Mom screaming, me just taking it) and she once said that if I don’t believe I’m not “one of them” and so far I’ve told them I’m questioning although I already know I’m an atheist. Thanks guys
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Miriam,
Welcome.
I will be moving this post to the Atheist Hub forum. Site Support, where you have initially posted it is for support with the website itself.
Perhaps only an ex-Muslim would be able to offer their experiences. I would just emphasise that there is NOTHING wrong with disbelief in god(s), Abrahamic or others. You are clearly worried about your relationship with your parents, but make sure they don't interpret that as you feeling guilty. That won't help. Everyone should be free to believe or not. Even most Muslims say that is consistent with Islam - the "religion of peace".
I have heard that Islam involves 'submission', at least for some people or by some interpretations. Honesty and self-worth are more important than submission to any superstition, dogma, religious sect or emotional blackmail. Christians use the words 'flock' and 'shepherd'. Religion is used for control by some people.
@Mariam.....
I'm afraid I'm not going to be much help ...... but please listen to what I say.....
DO NOT TELL ANYONE WITHIN YOUR FAMILY THAT YOU ARE ATHEIST..... it will not end well.
continue the "questioning " pose... you can always throw any arguments back at the family..... " You haven't convinced me mother,, my doubt is your fault",
But please don't admit to atheism ...... I don't want to scare you ... but please be careful..
Can I ask... where are you geographically...which country are you in ?
How old are you ?
are you financially independent?
@Mariam Khan
I'm sorry that you have to go through all this.
Being an ex-muslim I can share my experience of coming out to my parents.But it might not be of any help because my parents just didnt give a shit, especially my father who also despises religion and mostly stays away from it(but just to avoid being unsociable he goes to the mosque and other religious gatherings).I guess I am very lucky to have such parents.I come from a place where religious extremism is very common.I could get into serious trouble for having the same conversation that I have with my family with anyone else.
If your parents are really religious and strictly follow the rules, I would suggest not to express your atheism or you could land into some serious shit.And also I don't see a point in debating your parents.I think it is impossible for you to have a productive discussion about these issues with people of that age.I'm not suggesting they are incapable of doing so but that they are preoccupied with a lot of things so they just don't think about it anymore.
I would suggest to open up and share your ideas on the online platforms like AR.I think that's the best and safest option for you.I also joined AR very recently.
Stay safe.
Going with watchman's advice here.
You've declared your stance to yourself and that's all that matters. Any other declaration is needless and only serves to broadcast a courageous foolishness. You're going to have to internalize your declaration. It will eventually stop wanting to burst from you, lay down and listen to the danger waiting for it just outside you. You Mom is on alert and watching for it. No need to add people to the scrutiny.
My advice depends entirely on what country you are in. If you are in the USA, Canada, Australia, Spain, Italy, Grace, Norway, Denmark, etc, my advice will be something like, do what you want, it's okay, but if you are in a country like Saudi Arabia, Lybia, Oman, Iran, Pakistan etc I'd say don't tell anyone. Ever. Then there are other countries in the middle where you would have to be the judge. Weigh the benefits with the consequences. Ultimately, it doesn't matter if no-one knows. You know. And good for you.