My Parents belive in Jesus Christus and want that i do the same

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Teramis Klut's picture
My Parents belive in Jesus Christus and want that i do the same

What i should do ?
Lie and tell my parents , i believe in Jesus?
I am 18.

Greetings

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CyberLN's picture
Not sure where you reside,

Not sure where you reside, but in most places at 18 you are considered an adult.

So far as coming out as atheist to your family, do what makes sense to you. None of us knows your circumstances so it's difficult, at best, to advise you on this. Are you financially dependent on your family? Would your safety be at risk if you came out?

Check out Greta Christina's book, "Coming Out Atheist". It may help.

Zaphod's picture
Tell us about your situation,

Tell us about your situation, do you live with your parents? Are there reasons you don't want to come out about it? HAve you weighed the risk /reward of coming out about your non-belief.

There are plenty of reasons to both keep it to yourself and to be outspoken about it but everyone's situation is different sometimes its best just to let people believe what they want to, other times your better off letting people know. What advantages would there be for you to gain by proclaiming that you don't believe Jesus exist? There will often be worries and hurt feeling involved in situations where one has a religious family and they come out saying they don't believe in the religion but you are an adult and therefore should be able to make decisions for yourself. If you live with your rents you may have to live under their terms and conditions out of respect for them while you remain in their house this may even mean going to church, consider it your rent. In such cases I recommend that since your old enough you should definitely consider seeking alternative living conditions.

If after you move out they are still trying to control your beliefs and tell you how to live your life they may have issues with control or letting go and it may be wise to put a little more space between you and your parents. there may be other reason to keep up appearances, like for example, future benefits such as property or other things that may be granted to you if you keep the faith so to speak. In my case I have been promised property if I get a catholic marriage this is quite an incentive. Despite this incentive I have been honest about my belief.

It turns out, sometimes people only hear what they want to I find this especially true with religious people... I have made it clear I don't believe in my moms god but she still wants me to get married in the catholic faith I believe this has to do with her knowing about my honesty and the vows one must make when getting married to raise their children in the catholic faith... Personally making such a vow to a god I don' t believe in doesn't mean anything to me. If a catholic marriage will make my mom happy so be it. Also though, in my particular situation it may be a good idea to observe my father is an atheist and my rents are still married. So I may not be let in on some conversations that take place behind closed doors.

ex-christian_atheist's picture
I am in the same boat. I just

I am in the same boat. I just turned 19, and I live with my husband 45 minutes away from our parents. We still haven't told them, and never plan to. It just isn't worth it. Sure, we have to pretend to believe something we dont. But we love our parents so much, and we know what it would do to them to know we didn't believe in God. We just can't do that to them. His mom is so serious about religion that when we tried to avoid going to church 3 times a week she was near tears telling us she was afraid we would stop going ot church when we moved and "lose our way" and that she didn't want to hurt our feelings or be bossy, but she just wanted us to go to heaven.(and she barely managed to choke that last bit out) And what were we going to say? 'Oh actually, we lost that way a while ago, we're definitely not going to church when we move, and by your standards we are headed straight to Hell.' That's what she would hear if we said in the gentlest way possible that we were no longer Christians.

My own mother is obsessed with studying the Bible. She agrees with no church in the state, thinks the baptist views about pre-tribulation raptures are heracy, and thinks Jesus has already returned to earth. She loves discussing these things with me, and I enjoy it too because her interpretation of the bible is pretty accurate actually. The only thing we really disagree on is that I think it was all made up. But if I told her that, all our bible discussions would be in order to convert me and I would lose the close relationship I have with her and with my dad too. It definitely sucks to feel like I'm pretending, and I refuse to lie to them. If they ask me straight out, I will tell the truth. Every time I discuss with my mom her preterist views I say things like "yea, it definitely says Jesus either came back in the first century or he isn't coming back at all." She thinks I believe the first option when I really believe the second, but its the only way I can be even a little honest with her and maybe plant seeds of doubt in her without sacrificing our great relationship. I don't know how close you are to your parents, so you can decide if the collateral damage is worth being able to express yourself. For me, the answer is no.

Jeff Vella Leone's picture
I think that if you mother

I think that if you mother loves you(which i think she does) she would rather choose for you not to lie to her. Else you got to hell, you know :)

Btw, You mom is right, Jesus did come back around 70 AD at the destruction of the temple.
He prophetized that his second coming will come a generation after that prophecy.= 40 years.
He also claimed that the temple will be destroyed and not 1 stone will remain on top of an other.
That truly came to pass but they weren't publicized.Considering that they came to pass in vivid detail, one must wonder why?

It was the roman emperor Titus Flavius that did exactly what Jesus prophetized to the letter in 70AD

Of-course the church could not accept that Jesus was saying that he came back as the Son of GOD Emperor Titus Flavius(his father Flavius Vespasian was a GOD).
So you don't hear much about the prophecies of Jesus by the church or any preachers.

Else one could will make the link that maybe, just maybe Christianity is linked to the Flavian dynasty and their rise to power.
And it would explain why the first saint is Flavia Domatilla(niece of TItus Flavius), the first Pope is Flavius Titus Clement(Clement of Alexandria), etc...

If you are interested in knowing more, here is a documentary on the subject:
http://vimeo.com/69145519

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