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Hi, there. Got a lighthearted rant here (I have a weird sense of humor, I'll admit it), along with a question on the community's take of things. I'm interested in what you guys have to say on this, whether our opinions match or not, so please lemme know.
Alright, so before we start, please let me clarify a little bit here:
Most of this is coming from personal experience, and like I said, it's a little bit of a rant. Maybe I've just had bad luck, maybe humanity's doomed, maybe I left the stove on; it really doesn't matter to me.
These experiences have been in real life, when I physically or socioeconomically can't just politely say "can't talk right now/Don't feel comfortable talking about this, sorry/I gotta go" (or remain silent and have a crazy person follow me for a while, making a fool out of themselves in public). It's in situations where I can't just up and move or leave.
On the net, there's that sweet, sweet block button; alternatively I can get up off my scrawny butt and grab a cup of coffee/play video games/dance on a table sober, so for that, I'm fine, thanks. I digress.
From many, many of the people I come across there's been this "tribal" (for lack of a better word), "us versus them" mentality. Not just with religious beliefs, but everything. Sports, sweet potatoes, favorite color or pattern. It's crazy. (And here I am pointing out the obvious.)
Yeah, I know it's nothing new either; we're humans, and humans are still animals (gasp). We have emotional responses to everything. It's brain chemistry.
But for the love of whatever god you may or may not believe in, can you calm the absolute fuck down?
I've been forced through lengthy one-sided arguments where I literally just sit there as someone unloads a construction-sized load of crap (read: emotional baggage) over the dumbest things.
If I could leave the situation, you bet I would have. As mentioned, it's usually been when I can't get away. Being polite is worth extra piss-off points.
"Oh, you're from a certain state? I hate you already."
"Oh, you don't go to the exact same church? (fuck my childhood) You're an inferior piece of shit."
"Oh, you're remaining calm as I'm yelling, and even though you're acknowledging I'm upset and active-listening (STOP NODDING YOUR HEAD!), I'm not calming down but getting angrier because you won't yell with me? You're a despicable human being."
People get threatened over really dumb shit. I've had nutbars respond to my "good morning" with a guttural "WHY DO YOU HATE ME?" (Love ya, mommy!)
I know there will always be people out there who will fight for what they believe in, maybe because they want to feel powerful, and/or that thing they cling to so strongly is special to them: maybe it gives them hope, and what would people do without hope? That I can understand. If it's special to you, cool. That's awesome. You keep doing you; I have nothing against it.
But can you stop trying to pick a damn fight? I'm not even telling you you're wrong. Even if in every bone in my body tells me you're wrong, I really don't want a fucking fight. Call me a wimp if you want, I'm just not interested in fighting and yelling. I'm a weirdo that way.
There's no other seats on the bus. Stop telling me to go to your church.
I can't get away from you if we're carpooling together, though I feel like popping on a helmet and tucking and rolling.
We're walking to our destination a block away and you're bringing up a subject that could get me shot in this town if I gave my take, you bet I wish I could Rambo-roll over the nearest parked car hood and bail.
Remember, that's just me. I have better things to do with my time than actually shout at people on trivial topics.
I just hate fruitless arguments. It's a waste of time, and time is something I really don't have in my schedule to donate to your silly little argument about how plaid is better than polka-dots. I have work, I have hobbies, I have obligations. I'm not obligated to you.
Hope I haven't lost you so far. Don't get me wrong: civilized debates are cool. Calmly talking things through and seeing where the other person may stand, trying to see where they're coming from and being granted the same respect (that's the keyword here). I like that. Whether you come away feeling the same or stronger on your own opinion, or it changes your mind to be more open to something; whatever, dude.
Just be cool.
Please understand this is just where I'm coming from. Cue the cheesy Barney music, but I personally like being different and not having the world end over it. It may be unrealistic, but I wish people could just do the same sometimes. Doesn't have to be all the time. Then I'd be like them. Think I lost my point.
I think part of me being calm is because of being born with a heart condition and kind of *needing* to stay calm from a survival standpoint, heh (not whining for attention, potential grumps, just wondering if this could be a factor from a physiological standpoint). I still have strong beliefs of my own, I still abhor injustices. I still value life and empathy. I like to volunteer when I have the time and energy to help people. I just don't like going drill sergeant mode on people. I'd rather try to come to a resolution if possible, and be comfortable in my own skin.
Anyway, apathetic rant and entirely personally subjective opinion piece over.
Hope that made enough sense. I'm sleepy. Also, sorry for any spelling/grammatical errors, I usually check myself on that shit.
Tl;dr: Hi there, human beings and questionable human beings who think they were born with the spirit of a wolf. Can you calm the fuck down? If I don't want to fight, you aren't going to die.
We can all have our differences and be different, separate people, liking one thing and another liking something else and the world won't spontaneously combust! (Uhhh... for the most part.) And I think that's absolutely beautiful. You may disagree but that's okay.
Now go eat a damn Snickers, you're not you when you're bitching about a magic book.
(My sarcasm is playful, take what you will of it, but please know I mean no harm.)
Just to wrap things up:
I was just kind of wondering if other people feel the same sometimes or if I seriously have something wrong with me by not getting sucked into arguments and staying calm. Even though I acknowledge people's concerns, that seems to get them riled up even worse. It's not like I'm sitting there and staying smug or ignoring them, either: I let them know they're being heard. Apparently that's threatening?
What are your thoughts? I think I've pretty much covered my side, hopefully I haven't come off as a damn narcissist in the process either; but whether our opinions align or not, I'd like to have a civil discussion and hear your take. Please know I say this honestly and civilly.
P.s.: thanks for reading my lengthy post and take care, dudes.
Mabe I should start a blog nobody will read packed with obnoxious pop-ups? Heh.
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