Finding An Atheist Life Partner

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Finding An Atheist Life Partner

Hi everyone,

I'm not sure if this sounds like an awkward topic but well, I've got nowhere else to discuss it. Can't even discuss it with family because as you all know, they are staunchly religious and I am completely godless.

Anyways, so my question is how does an atheist go about to finding a life partner or someone to date? I mean, when I used to be religious, it was already tough for me to make friends who were in the same standard of strictness of religion as me (some were very religious, some were very liberal and some in the middle). But now, as I imagine it, it seems to be a hundred times more harder to find someone with no religion at all, an atheist.

I'm asking this question NOT from the perspective of a citizen of a specific country, I'm asking it from the perspective of suppose, like living in a liberal place such as United Kingdom, United States of America, Australia, New Zealand or even Europe. I'd really like some tips regarding this because I have absolutely ZERO idea as to how to approach someone while being an atheist. Here are my dilemmas:

1) How does someone ask someone's religion or lack of it without offending or initiating a debate?
2) How does someone find an atheist to date?
3) I tried to research some dating websites (well, I've not always been fond of them) for atheists and agnostics but I can't seem to find anything reliable or trustworthy. How does this work guys?
4) Should the religiousness or lack thereof, of someone, be cleared prior in the first meeting before advancing further in the relationship or should it be asked later?
5) Suppose someone does find a desirable individual whom they wish to advance further in relationship (marry when both are okay) but somehow it happens that their parents are religious (like mine, but I am not); how does one talk to the parents of that individual or how does one introduce our parents to that individual?
6) How is a marriage of atheists carried out? Where exactly does it take place?
7) What about the oaths during marriage (they are mostly religious and this time it's an atheist marriage)?
8) If not priests, who exactly is present to instruct the bride and groom, in case of atheist marriage, about well, like it happens in a church you know, the guy recites things, asks for promises from both of them and then tells them that you are now husband and wife and etc. (gosh this is awkward when writing)
9) How do you teach your children important things like lying is not good while yourself knowing that you can't base it on the reason that god will punish you if you lie or you'll end up in jail (you won't). Similarly, how are other morals taught?
10) Do you suggest that atheist parents should gift their children books like those of Hitchens, Dawkins, Sam Harris and etc at the age of 14-15 and then let them decide what religion (if any) they wish to follow after 18?

Just how does it work guys, I'm very very confused. Ever since I've become an atheist, I've completely been reborn. I had to parent myself, teach myself all the morality again and eliminate all the old beliefs which had something or everything to do with my old religion. Therefore, I find myself confused about topics which I previously knew what to do about but now I don't know but would desperately like to know. It's like I know to know everything about what an atheist is supposed to do in situation X where X is just any situation which was previously carried out in accordance with religion like question 9.

Thanks and I look forward to your answers.

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Nyarlathotep's picture
Seek3R - How is a marriage of
CyberLN's picture
I’ll take a stab at a few of
Tin-Man's picture
Hey there, Seek3R! Good to
Cognostic's picture
I get E-mail from a dating
turning_left's picture
Heya. I'm an atheist woman in
bchouck's picture
Hi Seek3R. I know you said
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@Seek3r
demik's picture
Yes, every religion has its
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When seeking a life partner,

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