Apology to AR

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Apology to AR

@ Everyone
If you would indulge me this last story and explanation.

My neighbor Ned had a sign in his yard that read “Neds Birthday Party”.
I always wanted to get to know him better.
I thought it would be the neighborly thing to do to show up.
I bought a present and knocked on his door. He seemed a little surprised.
He asked me if I wanted to meet his family, which I did.
I noticed that no other neighbors had shown up but thought they eventually would.
A few did show up but they didn’t stay. Just wished him a happy birthday or dropped off a present.
I thought, how rude, how un-neighborly not to stay. At least I was staying.
As the party progressed I noticed some stares and looks.
Sometime people would ask how I was related to Ned.
When I told them I was a neighbor they sometimes had a puzzled look.
I ate the cake and the ice cream, participated in the games and birthday song.
As I sat and wondered why I was the only good neighbor, I realized that I was the only non-relative.
It finally dawned on me, this was a family party.
Others could stop by but the party was for the family.

I think I have made the same mistake on AR

I was looking for a site to discuss Atheism and so I joined AR.
It is a site FOR Atheists. Others can ask a question or post a comment.
But it is not intended for others to camp out in and join every conversation.

Thank you for your time and trouble.
If I have a question I will stop by.
But will leave the family in peace.

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xenoview's picture

You are welcome to post at AR. So please continue to post at AR. We want to hear from theist.

David Killens's picture
You are not unwelcome Jo.

You are not unwelcome Jo.

You are mistaken for taking the viewpoint this forum is just for atheists. I want to have a healthy (and hopefully respectful) exchange of opinions between the opposing camps. In fact, there is a place just for atheists, and it is a distinct sub-forum just for atheists. The existence of this sub-forum negates your statement that AR is just for atheists.

You are always welcome, but your duplicity and evasiveness is not.

If I never see you again, I sincerely wish you and your loved ones the best in prosperity, life, health, and happiness.

Sheldon's picture
David Killens "You are

David Killens "You are always welcome, but your duplicity and evasiveness is not."

Very well put. It's not that theists are not welcome, as much as some of them come here and simply avoid debate, and some simply want to preach at us. Endless repetition without ever acknowledging cogent rational objections is always going to grate after a while.

Jo's picture
@ David Killens

@ David Killens

I am glad to know that it was not as I thought it might be.
That AR is primarily for Atheists.
That Theists are just as welcome.
Thanks for helping me understand.

LogicFTW's picture
Atheist debate forums are

Atheist debate forums are open to all. That said, there is not going to be any "hand holding" or people being polite, all that is expected is people follow the rules. I personally do not have a personal problem towards you Jo. My problem is with religion and the notion of god. I actually well understand the intense societal pressures just about everyone faces to agree/comply with their most important peer's religions even if those religions are not based on any sort of fact or evidence whatsoever.

Additionally, theist that come here, may also be unwitting targets of some of us atheist (myself included sometimes) of letting off some of our steam and frustrations on the situation as a whole. I do not wish you any sort of ill will Jo. I do wish humanity would leave behind the unevidenced religion/god ideas so we the human race as a whole could progress more quickly. I also feel time is running out, if we do not get past the old way of doing things, our enormous population and destructive tendencies could quite literally doom this planet, the humans and all the other incredibly diverse species on it.

Far right, heavy religion (it does not matter god is in charge and has a plan) is spreading throughout the world, people have always been emotions first, but we NEED to get past that or we doom our children and grandchildren to far worse lives then we currently enjoy.

If you were in a different forums debating then I would take issue, but these are debate forums. And I think all of us take issue when folks proselytize or just spam copy and pasted text with a bunch of bible references, but I have not seen you do much of that Jo.

Old man shouts at clouds's picture
Don't apologise No. Happy to

Don't apologise No. Happy to debate you on any occasion (Hint:you need some facts)
The only proviso is; you stop lying.

I welcome theists with original, cogent ideas. Most come with pre suppositions and no intent to change them in light of new knowledge, like yourself Jo, they lie about their intent.

What was your real intent in coming onto these forums?

Jo's picture
@ Old man shouts

@ Old man shouts

I don't think I was being dishonest about my real intent.

How about to debate Atheism and all things related?

Old man shouts at clouds's picture


And seek for truth?

Your real intention was to gain converts/be a missionary regardless of facts. Admit that Jo.

(edit be a missionary to clarify meaning)

Tin-Man's picture
@Jo Re: OP analogy

@Jo Re: OP analogy

Oooooo.... So close, but no cigar. Unlike your analogy, the AR site is not a private family home. And you are not a neighbor arriving uninvited to a private family party. Also, this is not a child's "birthday party" full of a bunch of young and inexperienced little kiddies eating cake and ice cream and playing innocent little kids games. In other words, unlike your analogy, in here you are not an adult "competing" with a bunch of children. With that in mind, based on various observations and the contents of your posts the past several months, one cannot help believing you arrived on this site with the misguided impression and delusions of grandeur that you would be the "adult who arrived at the children's party and beat their little asses at their own silly little games." Problem is, though, it is pretty damn tough when you realize those "children" are much better equipped and much more experienced than you are in "playing those games", and it can be pretty embarrassing when the adult gets his own ass spanked by a bunch of "kids". Now the adult who was trying to crash the party has to find a way out while still trying to save face. Good luck with that.

Sad part is, you still do not get it. Even after all of this time. You arrived here with your good manners and your "humble humility" under the guise of "seeking truth." But as others have already asked several times, what truth are you seeking? And even though we have told you our truth multiple times, you STILL end up asking the same questions and making the same inane remarks over and over when those truths we tell you do not fit all nice and neatly into your particular religious dogma. You have even AGREED with many of us about several different things we have told you that totally contradict your faith system. Yet you keep plugging away and trying to zip in from another angle in attempts to refute those things with which you agreed. Why? Why bother agreeing with somebody, when you know you are only going to try to find a way to counter what they told you in an attempt to prove them wrong? But THEN you go getting all butt-hurt when caught doing that and getting called out on it, causing you to fall back on playing the "Victim Card". If you are looking for respect around here (or anywhere else, for that matter) that is NOT the way to do things.

To reiterate what others have already said, the AR is a public site open to any and all people of any and all faiths (or non-faiths, as the case may be). Matter of fact, in general, we actually WELCOME theists coming onto the site who want to discuss their particular faith and maybe learn about atheism. "Come on in! The door is open!" When they enter, though, they better understand they are not dealing with a bunch of naive little inexperienced children who are playing cute games at a party. Sure, most of us love to goof off and have a good laugh or two. Laughter is a great thing. But when it comes down to the nitty gritty, this seemingly chaotic bunch of juvenile circus clowns can turn into a unified pack of vicious wolves at the snap of a finger when the scent of condescending attitudes and dishonest tactics are detected. (And it does not matter if it is from a theist or another atheist.) Otherwise, we like to have fun and help others whenever given a chance.

So, go if you want, Jo. Or, you can stay and maybe TRULY try to learn something. Totally up to you. Just be aware, though, I'm pretty sure your trying to save face while tucking your tail and running away is not fooling anybody here.

Cognostic's picture
@Tin: That was better than

@Tin: That was better than the post I was going to make. I started mine but ended up time deficient and so just decided to do it later. Now there is no obvious need.

Tin-Man's picture
@Cog Re: "That was better

@Cog Re: "That was better than the post I was going to make."

Thanks. I would say, "Great minds think alike." However, I don't know which of us would be more insulted... lol...

Old man shouts at clouds's picture


Nothing more to add mate. Sadly I suspect our resident mendacious theist will use any second chances to attempt to push his agenda.
He wants to convert and lying is seen as a positive in his quest for affirmation from his church elders.

That is the saddest thing about Jo, he obviously trots back to his support group when his ignorance or weak arguments are exposed. They give him an assortment of answers and he returns to try the 'best fit'.

When Jo realises that they do not have his best interests at heart he may start unraveling the lies and inaccuracies he has swallowed. May that day be soon. I reckon despite Jo's defense of genocide, cruelty , racism etc there is a human in there somewhere crying for release.

IF not, he will probably be making the worst sort of headlines in 10 years or so.....

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@ Tin-Man

@ Tin-Man

"You arrived on this site with the misguided impression and delusions of grandeur that you would be the "adult who arrived at the children's party and beat their little asses at their own silly little games." Problem is, though, it is pretty damn tough when you realize those "children" are much better equipped and much more experienced than you are in "playing those games", and it can be pretty embarrassing when the adult gets his own ass spanked by a bunch of "kids". "

I never said nor meant that. Why did you read that into it?
In my story if anyone was a child it was me.
Everyone understands what is going on except for me.

Just to be clear, with a few examples.
When it comes to the history of Christianity, I am like a first year student, and Old man shouts is like a professor.
Nyarlathotep knows exponentially more than I do about math, and probably a bunch of other subjects.
Cals writing abilities make me feel like a near illiterate.
Yes, I have had lots of spankings on AR.

Old man shouts at clouds's picture
@ Jo

@ Jo

When it comes to the history of Christianity, I am like a first year student, and Old man shouts is like a professor.

A very GRUMPY professor especially when his students appear to learn nothing and repeat third hand assertions as if they were true.....

Yes, I have had lots of spankings on AR.

Then modify your behaviour, there is no point in continuing the beatings if the behaviour does not change. It just causes unnecessary pain to everyone.

Tin-Man's picture
@Jo Re: "I never said nor

@Jo Re: "I never said nor meant that. Why did you read that into it?"

Jo, I do not know you personally, and I cannot read your mind. Therefore, I am able to draw conclusions about you based only on what you write and how you write it. As far as HOW you write, it is obvious you are educated and literate with a fairly good amount of sense and grammar skills. As far as WHAT you write, though... Well, let's just say there's room for improvement... *chuckle*... Please allow me to clarify something real quick....

Just so you know, I will be putting aside my usual asshole-ish sarcasm for a few moments in this post. In other words, what follows is meant to be sincere and serious. (Well, at least as sincere and serious as I can manage, at least... *crooked grin*...)The reasons for that are: 1. Despite everything, I am going out of my way to try to give you the benefit of the doubt.; 2. Even if you do not heed my words, there are untold numbers of "lurkers" who read these threads, so this will be as much (or more) for them as it is for you.; 3. I don't recall that you have been DIRECTLY rude or disrespectful during your time with us. Matter of fact, you have been considerably civil. So I am taking that into consideration as part of my evaluation. Anyway, for what it is worth, here's my two cents worth in regards to your claimed reason(s) for being here. Keep in mind, a few others have already mentioned a few of the things I am about to say, so if you have already heard some of these things, then you might want to consider there could be a reason for it...

If I recall correctly, you stated in the beginning that you were here to discuss atheism and search for truth. Excellent. Fine. We (atheists) actually enjoy theists folks joining us for just such things..... (As long as they are sincere and serious about doing so.) Now, on one hand, you started out okay. You are polite and courteous, you have good writing skills, and you were asking good questions and actually discussing/debating the topics. So far, so good. However, after a while, it got to the point you were asking the same questions over and over, despite having them answered for you consistently by several different atheists members. It has been as though you did not like the answers we were giving because they were totally countered to your faith, and you were trying your best to attack from different angles in hopes of getting different answers that made you feel better. And that same behavior has been gradually progressing up to the point of where we are now. Plus, as I have already mentioned, you have even AGREED with many of the answers we have given you, yet you STILL ask those same questions in varying manners as if trying to "trip somebody up" so that you can have an, "Ah-ha!' moment. Quite honestly, that can get pretty annoying after a bit. Jo, like it or not, 2+2=4, no matter how you ask the question.

Now, with that in mind, if you did not arrive here with the intention of "beating the children at their own game", then WHY are you really here? Because based on your questions and replies the past few months, it is becoming more and more difficult to believe you are hear looking to find any truth beyond what your particular faith commands you to believe. Hmmm.... Let me try this another way... I spent a vast majority of my life chained to a religion/faith in which I did not fully believe or even pretend to comprehend. But the constant fear of Satan and hell kept me locked in a perpetual state of Pascal's Wager. It has only been within the last couple of years that I was finally able to completely cut my ties and escape that suffocating fog that clouded my mind for so many decades. And ever since I made my escape, I have had zero desire nor need to go around "preaching" to others in an attempt to help them "see the light." Knowing the things I know now, "to each his own", as far as I am concerned. Sure, I feel a bit sad for some of those folks from time to time, and I do get angry about those who constantly try to force their particular variety of religion into our government. Otherwise, though, I am simply happy to finally have a clear and unburdened mind for once in my life, and I am more comfortable with my thoughts and views than I have ever been before. And I absolutely DO NOT visit theist sites in an effort to "discuss religion" or learn their particular version of "the truth." Bottom line is, with the exception of a lucky few, most atheists struggled long and hard to shake their religious indoctrination. Why the hell would we want to go back and visit it??? Besides, even if I tried, I can pretty much guarantee I would not last more than five minutes there, regardless of how polite and respectful I might be. So why waste my time?

On the other hand, you seem to be considerably confident in your particular faith, yet you arrive on an atheist site "seeking truth" and trying to understand atheism. Cool. Good. Honestly wish more theists would do the same. (Hell, for that matter, I wish I would have visited this site years ago. Honest fact is, though, is that I probably would not have been ready for it. But I digress...) Anyway, I do happen to think it is great that you are willing to hear "the other side of the story." Most theists would never dare do such a thing. For, as I was taught, to question anything about God or the bible is a BIG No-No. Yet, here you are, Jo. Questioning, digging, probing, even agreeing on a few points here and there. Nevertheless, despite everything we have told you over the past several months, it is as if you have either learned absolutely nothing... OR that you are intentionally sticking your fingers in your ears and going, "LA-LA-LA-LA-LA-LA!" because you do not like the answers we give (even though you do seem to agree with a few of them). So, once again, that begs the question of, "WHY ARE YOU REALLY HERE???"

Re: Nyar, Cali, and Old Man

Since you brought them up for some reason, I figured I would reply to it. Yes, Old Man could easily be a professor in the realm of the history of the bible. And Nyar knows more about math than just about anybody else on this site, and he sometimes makes me feel like I am lucky to be able to answer the simple math question to make a post without having to take off my shoes (most of the time). As for Cali... Geeez, dude. Who on here DOESN'T stand in awe at his writing skills and knowledge? So, what's your point? What has that got to do with the price of tea in China? Superb intellect is a great thing, for sure. But, for the most part, it pales in comparison to honesty and a sense of personal integrity. And being honest with yourself is even more important, in my humble opinion.

Randomhero1982's picture
How about an analogy from an

How about an analogy from an atheistic perspective, in regards to theists on this site...

You're having a house warming party, everyones getting alone and people are welcoming... all of a sudden, theres the distinctive sound of sirens and flashing lights illuminating the night sky.

The law has arrived... its Sheriff Righteous!

Say howdie to Sheriff Righteous, partners!

You open the door and greet the officer and ask him in for bite to eat and friendly conversation.

All is well at first, until he clearly has one to many whisky chasers and the real Sheriff Righteous comes out...

He straddles up to you and whispers, "those two ladies over there... are they..."

"Yes, they are gay, don't worry it's perfectly fine and natural!"

He whips out his gun, "hands up! Your under arrest for breaking the law!"

"What law?"


a collective reply of, "for fuck sake...." echoes around the room as the couple are escorted out.

The party continues...

The sheriff catches you again, "I've just had to arrest that native american guy eating the little cubes of cheese on sticks in the kitchen, sorry!"

"What the fuck for?"

Righteous replies, "well... you know his kind, always breaking the law!"

"What law!"

He responds, "THE LAWWWWWW!!!!!!"

"Can you show me these laws? And who the hell made them?

"These laws are already within you, ya'll just need to feel it and accept it in your heart!" He replies.

"Errr... no, that's bollocks!"

"Do you like closed spaces?" He responds.


The party goes on in deathly silence!

The sheriff announces he is to leave, greeted by a collective sigh of relief...

Just then you see your cousin coming to the door, who is an expert in evolutionary biology...

"Ohhh fuck no!!!!"

You command your friends to distract the sheriff with a set of shiney keys whilst getting rid of your relative, whilst diving out of the door like Bruce Willis in a die hard film.

Finally all calms and Sheriff Righteous is about to leave, your son walks down the stairs, asking if we can watch Carl Sagan's Cosmos again.

You here the revolver cocked back....

Cognostic's picture
Jo: You could not be more

Jo: You could not be more wrong. We have students from apologetic classes stop in here all the time. We have people that want to discuss information honestly all the time. People are treated with complete respect. You need to learn when you are wrong and to stop repeating the same stupid shit over and over and over. You need to learn what a fact is and what constitutes an unfounded groundless assertion. You need to know when you have overstated your position and honestly admit it. You don't get points on this site for stubbornly hanging onto ignorance, avoiding being cornered, or changing the subject so you don't have to deal with facts.
There is not an atheist on the site what will not have an honest discussion with you, but you have to reciprocate the honesty and stop the apologetic bullshit.

Sheldon's picture
Cognostic "You need to

Cognostic "You need to learn when you are wrong and to stop repeating the same stupid shit over and over and over. You need to learn what a fact is and what constitutes an unfounded groundless assertion."

To be fair to Jo, you've just asked him to stop believing in unevidenced superstition.

I genuinely dont think he is capable of objective critical examination of his religious beliefs. However he can fucking Google common logical fallacy, and argumentum ad ignorantiam, and therefore his continuing claim that his beliefs are supported by logic, and that his religious belief has parity with disbelief (atheism) because no one can "prove" a deity doesn't exist, is quite clearly deliberate mendacity. As of course were his list of "atheist claims" in my thread asking theists to list ten objectively moral acts, or any beliefs they held without any objective evidence, but that formed no part of their religious beliefs. When asked to link posts where atheists had made those claims he couldn't provide a single one. In short he made something up that wasn't true, and two of them he falsely assigned to me. I detest mendacity and called him on it, and he still refuses to even acknowledge the lie....even now.

I'm not impressed by the underlying dishonesty in his "apology" either, I must say. Which doesn't seem much like an apology for his dishonesty, as it does an accusation of bias against this forum...

Jo "I joined AR.
It is a site FOR Atheists. Others can ask a question or post a comment.
But it is not intended for others to camp out in and join every conversation..."

Hmmm, QED...

He hasn't been censured for camping out on here, but because he rehashed the same logical fallacy almost every time he posted, "you can't disprove a deity exists, so belief is logically a 50/50 premise." This is the very definition of an argumentum ad ignorantiam fallacy.

Because atheism isn't a claim that a deity doesn't exist, nor is it the belief a deity doesn't exist. And it is that dishonesty he has also rehashed again and again...

I dont leap on theists who make these fallacious claims, even though they could simply read the existing threads and see they're fallacious. However, when the same theists repeats that fallacy again and again, ignoring the explanation of that fallacy, then I get a trifle miffed...and when inevitably they're accused of being dishonest the fur starts to fly, as it were...

If you can demonstrate no objective evidence for your version of your chosen deity, then how does your belief carry any more credence than any other completely unevidenced belief that is supported by naught but unevidenced anecdotal claims?

Zeus anybody? Not as absurd as you might think, apparently Thor is making a small resurgence in some countries that are overwhelmingly secular. The adherents talked of spiritual experiences that underpinned their beliefs, but they couldn't accurately explain them, and of course could demonstrate no objective evidence, even laughed at the idea.....sound familiar Jo?

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