I am a new comer here so be gentle.
Now I have been a devoted Shia Muslim my whole life. My parents were always kind to me and never forced me to pray, read the Quran or to fast at a young age. They decided it was best for me to take my time with Islam so that I would grow into it. Eventually I did when I was 13 where I felt it was my duty to be a devoted Muslim.
I was like that for five years until I began to question my religion. I saw that there are some flaws here and there. Some times I felt that I wanted to leave Islam because of peer pressure. (I have been an introvert for most of my life and most of my friends aren't Muslims or religious at all but I still love them and they the same but I feel that there is a large gap between us so I really just want to let go so that I can be closer to them) But of course this shouldn't be the best reason as to why I should leave Islam.
I ask my parents and they happily give answers. Some that I still believe till today about the flaws of western secular life.
Yet I do still have some doubts I want to present these questions to you in hopes that you can convince me to leave Islam. If you can that is.
First off is the idea of sex and its acceptance in the west. People are far more open to it in the west than it is in any other part of the world. Yet is it a good thing?
My parents tell me that since the west has accepted it has led to issues dealing with marriage and relationships in general.
They say that the more skin people reveal the more numb they become to sex. When people see sex as something anyone can get with ease like on first dates, in a party, or prostitutes they then don't see it as sacred and thus won't see a marriage as something important.
So this has led to many divorces and a low fertility rate as can be seen in Europe. So how should atheists deal with this issue? You have made sex easy for everyone. Sex is great, I think its great and I wish I can do it several times a day but if the population isn't going to be at least stable doesn't that mean that you are killing your own kind and eventually replacing it with religious families who care about families as its happening in Germany?
Also when it comes to issues about "Stop staring at my body!", perverts, and rape in general. Is it possible to halt the urges of men to not look at women's bodies if they're wearking skimpy clothes on the streets. Can we go to the point where the natural tendencies of a man to love sex more than a woman to minimized and we can teach them since they were young to not be so obsessed with sex in a society which is and actually help decrease the amount of rape in the world?
Second comes to things like alcohol. Now what I have seen with my friends that if you drink it in moderate terms then its alright but here's the thing. Not everyone does that. They see it as a way to run away from their troubles. Many people have suffered from it as you know since its addictive and can cause them to do terrible things and destroy their livelihoods.
So is alcohol really a good thing to keep in our society?
(I would rather live in a world with weed than alcohol)
Third is gender roles. Now I know this will be a controversial topic but as atheists I believe that you can be tolerant enough to hear my plea on this one. Now I respect women greatly. I would never dare touch a women when she doesn't want to. I would never rape a woman. I would never beat a woman. I believe that she can have any job a man can have. That when she is raped the blame shouldn't be put on her.
But then comes the issue of raising children and staring a family. If the woman is too independent than she wouldn't want to get married and settle down so easily when she gets a degree. That I understand its stupid to waste half of the potential of the population. But even if she does get married and has kids how much time does she have to spare for her children. If she isn't around them most of the time since she has to work and then relax for a while at home without seeing her children running around and shouting everywhere then they won't be able to see there mother very often which is a problem.
If she gets a maid or her mom to take care of her children then they'll see this person as more of their mom than their actual mother.
I have seen this with two families before. My uncle and his wife have been working on separate jobs for fifteen years. They have kids but they don't see their mother as often as they should. When I lived with them for a year I saw that her children had issues with socializing and such. What I know at least is that they didn't have a happy childhood. My Uncle's daughter once told her mom that when she gets a child she would rather stay at home and raise him or her than get a job since she doesn't want them to grow up weird and get bullied in school.
I will talk about other things like homosexuality in the next post (since there is already so much in this one). I respect all beliefs and I hate all those who don't (such as the terrorists in my religion that plague it everyday).
I hope you'll be able to answer these questions and in hopes of letting me leave Islam. (if you can)
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