How would you go on about convincing someone that you do them a favor or give them a gift because you love them and not because you expect something in return? Especially someone that explicitly have been taught not to accept anything from anyone because it might lead to her disadvantage.
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I don't subscribe to the idea of altruism in the popular sense, but I think favors "without strings attached" do exist. Here's the thing, a favor isn't a favor if the recipient doesn't want it, no matter how hard you may think he/she/it needs it. In my experience, in a healthy relationship, over time friends learn each other's emotional language.
"How would you go on about convincing someone that you do them a favor or give them a gift because you love them and not because you expect something in return?"
By example.
"A favor isn't a favor if the recipient doesn't want it". I may have missed that one. Thank you both.
I gave some money to a beggar today...
I believe I understand where your at... I came to the conclusion that allot of people are skeptical about kindness, so I figured a way around it with a half truth! I'll tell them that the reason for my kindness and/or charity is very selfish really.. In my quest to be a better person it makes me feel good to help out another person.. So they may still be hesitant, yet they can not argue with my confession of selfishness.